I WANT to HELP, to SERVE and to make a difference in others.

Today I wrote a letter to an old friend of mine in the Lions Club Dr. Chan Tiang Ho, to request his assistance in helping a family's friend. And I feel good, I hope this "project" will eventually materialized like all other projects that I have initiated in my Lions Club.

Give me all the blessings, for me and for aunty Ruby.

*** kindly be informed that I was known as Francis Tan, before I became Fariz Abdullah, in case you do not know who is Francis Tan.

I am still actively involved in the Lions Movement and I personally have initiated many interesting community projects in and outside Malaysia. "To Serve" is our motto.

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Dear Lion Dr. Chan,

How are you getting on? I have not seen you for many years and have not met you in an Lions' Conventions, you must have been very busy.

By the way, I hope you still remember me, Lion Francis Tan. I am now based in KL and have been here for many years.
I received this email this morning and would like to know if you could direct me to the right person in KL for such project. I know a lady who need our help. She is a Filipina married to a Malaysian many years back and is now living alone (under the care of welfare, relatives and friends) after her divorced quite a number of years ago. We call her aunty Ruby.
Her right eye has a whitish growth and is making her vision blur. She did mentioned to me about her situatuion and in fact I was just talking to her yesterday, that I could try to see if there is any Lions Sight First project in KL so that we could help her.
This email comes in at the right time, maybe its her luck.
Dr. Chan, will you be kind to find out more for me on this. I thank you on her behalf and GOD bless.
By the way, its really GOOD to be able to talk to you again after so many years (wonderful Lions' Years).
You take care and regards to your beautiful wife and family.

Yours in Lionism,
Ln. Francis Tan

Siti, Siti, Bad Siti

Dear Siti,

What have you done to yourself?

You are suppose to be the goody goody girl next door, whom we all admired.

You are the role model for all the young and energetic Malaysian girls. You set the standard and they follow, you created the Malaysian culture of "good values" and "good moral".

But what is going on now?

You've just broke the hearts of many Malaysian. 'sigh'

You were once admired by the young, adored by the old and cheered by everyone

But now, all these people are feeling sorry for you and for what you have done -YOU let all of them DOWN.

We do not know why you are doing all these? Maybe you have re-defined the meaning of "Love is blind". Or maybe you have something else to prove.

Whatever you reason/s maybe, it's a BAD, BAD choice.

You must always remember that you are setting the stage for many Malaysian youngster to follow -you always lead and they always look to YOU for their inspirations.

You must not deny the fact that you are a public figure and NOT a private person. Whatever you do, do affect the public, this is the price you have to pay for being rich and famous.

We are happy for you that you are getting married, BUT we hate you choice. You've let us all down !

You have NOT done your role correctly, you are selfish because you only think of yourself when you decided to marry a "married man". Have you not think of all you fans who once "loved" you, who cheered for you, who supported you and most all of who make you what you are today?

NO you did not.

Much to our disappointment, you went ahead with your own little plan.

Your selfishness have sent a very strong message to all the young Malaysian; you are telling them that:

Its alright to wrack other people's family, as long as you are happy (it's fated)

Its perfectly alright to snatch other woman's husband if you need to (it's also fated)

As long as you are rich and famous, you need not listen to other, just do it

Its alright to make yourself as other children's mother once you've got their father

Where is your conscience, where is your family values and where is your moral? Siti, Siti, Siti, what have you done.

Too much damages, only God can judge. It looks like you are beyond the age of reasoning now. You have forgotten your "root", you core values, your social role & responsibilities, your people, your fans, and your GOD.

WE ARE DISAPPOINTED. Whatever it is, we hope you are happy (now), we have deleted you from our lives. This is the beginning of your "END", bye Siti...so long....

And we have replaced you with Misha Omar ;-)

Pulangkan Cinta hati Ku

Beautiful....simply beautiful....


Seharum bunga yang menggoda
Sekadar dipandang usah dipuja
Kau pasti tak percaya
Kasih ku bukan, Untuk mu, sayang
Tiada ku sangka kau sungguh kejam
Kau rampas segalanya yang kau dendam
Namun takkan bahgia kehidupan mu
Bila bunyi bersatu
Kau milik ku
Pulangkan cinta hati ku
Oh hentikan lah menghantui ku
Pulangkan oh pulangkan lah pada ku
Ku pulangkan kesan hidup mu
Yang dikau musnah tanpa relaku
Bebaskanlah maafkan daku, oh kasih
Tiada kemaafan di sini
Kau ragut degupan hati ku ini
Akan ku jejakimu, kemana jua
Hingga akhir masa, sayang.....

Liar, Liar, Liars

Are you telling Lies? Are you a liar?

I came across an article in the Newspaper yesterday that said that human beings have evolved to become "natural born liars."

How do we define "telling lies" then?

Telling a lie is an activity through which: One person deliberately, by choice, misleads another person without any notification that deception will occur. It does not matter whether the lie is accomplished by saying something false or by omitting crucial information. Those are just differences in technique, for the effect is the same.

Most people lie in everyday conversation when they are trying to appear likable and competent, according to a study conducted by University of Massachusetts psychologist Robert S. Feldman and published in the most recent Journal of Basic and Applied Social Psychology.
The study, published in the journal's June issue, found that 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation and told an average of two to three lies.
"People tell a considerable number of lies in everyday conversation. It was a very surprising result. We didn't expect lying to be such a common part of daily life," Feldman said.
The study also found that lies told by men and women differ in content, though not in quantity. Feldman said the results showed that men do not lie more than women or vice versa, but that men and women lie in different ways.

"Women were more likely to lie to make the person they were talking to feel good, while men lied most often to make themselves look better," Feldman said.

It seems that lying has become part of our lives and we, human have been lyng so much that it has become so "natural". Isn't that worrying?

I do believe that sometimes we lie WITHOUT even knowing (or thinking) that we are ACTUALLY lying.

Like for example..."We teach our children that honesty is the best policy, but we also tell them it's polite to pretend they like a birthday gift they've been given. Kids get a very mixed message regarding the practical aspects of lying, and it has an impact on how they behave as adults."

So now, tell me...who is the liar?

Liar, Liar, pant's on FIRE !!!!

MONEY, MONEY, MONEY AND MORE MONEY

Some say "Money is not everything..." I say..."Everything IS Money", in the real sense, everythnig needs money.

We, all of us living in this century cannot ignore or pretend that money is NOT an issue. We can no longer live in our own fantasy world trying to lie to ourselves that LOVE will conquere all. No, no, no my dear friends, LOVE is nothing without money. On the contrary LOVE will flourish when there is MONEY - true? In fact it is very, very true. Look around us and judge for yourself and observe all the things that are happening around us. Then you can tell me confidently whether money does make a difference in almost everything in lives.

MONEY is a sensitive issue and not many people like to talk about it, except me. I am a realistix person, I believe very much that MONEY is what makes the world goes round. NOT in the actual sense of its context, but in the realistic cent of our material world.

I am very badly affected by the word - MONEY. I could not say that I do not have enough and at the same time I could not say that I am contented with what I had. There is a saying, enough is never enough...and yes, I do not have enough of it -MONEY.

Then there are people who ask me, "How much is enough?" I think and I say, not enough...I want more. And more. Because there are so many things that I wanted and I could not afford. Things that others had, but I don't. Places that others went, but I have'nt. WHY?

WHY? Because of MONEY that's why! Idiot ! Oh, I'm so sorry, I usually get carried away when it comes to money. You see, I live a simple life when I was young, I live by my own little "motto" which I hold dearly even until today.

My motto: "I rather die rich than to live poor..."

Of course some of you may not agree with me, BUT that's ok, its fine with me, because it's MINE motto or credos, whichever you call it. I choose to live by my motto not because I am greedy but because I have this "FEAR" of not having enough MONEY. The fear of living poor, the fear of many things that money can do and I could not have the money to do them. The fact that I said I am not greedy for money is being proven by my generous donations I contributed through the Lions Club throughout the many years of my life. I love to do charitable works, I love to help, to serve ("TO SERVE", is the Lion's Club motto), to be useful to the society.

Money, money, money, is in fact nothing but "papers"- papers that is recognised by certain financial instituitions. But it is these papers that determine WHERE you stand in this society. YES, it is this very "papers" that tell everyone who you are, what you are made of, where do you come from, how do you live, why are you here, which places do you go for dinners, what car/s do you drive, what watches do you wear, where do you go for holidays (if any), and the list goes on....

You see, we are all being "judged" by our peers and our society everyday. We cannot avoid that. And if you want to be judged positively, you need to have "papers." Let us not kid ourselves and keep telling ourselves that "I am happy with what I have..." the fact is "how" happy is "your" happiness. Hey! get real...snap out of it....you ARE NOT happy, you are only lying to yourself, day after day, year after year, and by the time you closed your eyes - you are still lying...and yes, lying 6 feet under.

Now, tell me... WERE you really happy?

Many important decisions in this world are made by basing on nothing but - MONEY. Why is the United States so interested in the middle East?, What are the "things" the top executives of Enron and Worldcom are after? why are there so many countries picking-up on the reality show "Idol", why are there so many people joining reality shows? why do people join politics, why do people ask "the custom officers to close one eye", why do people allow themselve to be ran over by a train? why do people go for Ah Long (knowing the danger it entails), why are there so many robberies? why do you think Siti Norhaliza choose to marry (or soon to be married) to a divorced businessman? Why? Why? Why?

Keep asking and keep knocking your head...the answer is clear.

All crucial decisions are made based on the "need" or the "amount" of "papers"

Would Siti marry an ordinary man like me or any kampong man....NO WAY! Get real, she knows what she wants and nobody can stop her - not even her closest friends or relatives. Some sources have even said that her parents are apparently very upset by her decision to be married to a divorced man. Imagine our goody goody "girl next door" is being labelled as a "home wreaker", "husband snatcher". Every single person will conciously think for himself or herself; what they want when they made a life - decision.

Frankly, without any reservation, I believe that my sister would not had married my brother-in-law if he have nothing but just a life or love (to offer).

My good friend Andrew once told me..." If your father is poor, you are fated, but if your father-in-law is also poor - YOU are stupid ! Make sense to you...? (knock, knock, - knock your head now...hello...anybody in there????)

What was he actually saying? Choice. Making a choice, just like Siti -making a choice, the right choice.

And he continues to tell me that he is both fated and stupid........ well, what can I say.

In the final analysis, this paper that I talk about is indeed the very element that actually makes the world goes round. It is this very paper that makes you either happy or sad, it is this very paper that determines your morning kisses or your morning blues, it is this very paper that tells others who you are (and not who you are pretending to be), it is this very paper that creates the much needed respect for you and your family, it is this very paper that determines how many people will attend your funeral, it is this very paper that either "make you" or "break you" and it is this very paper we called MONEY.

MONEY, MONEY, MONEY....

Till then.....love those papers darling, Fariz

My Thoughts - Robbers on Camry

I could not verify the attached story, BUT whatever it is...... it's better safe than sorry.

WE MUST take precaution and watch out for this car (Camry).

One more thing, today's paper tells us all about our economic situation (more or less) and our surroundings - in times to come (next 3, 6 and 9 months).

Today, there are people dying, apparently committing suicide, allowing themselves and their innocent children to be ran over by a passing train in Seremban.

There are people dying, apparently shot dead by robbers in a robbery in Serdang. The victims were a chinese shop supervisor and a Malay security guard of Poh Kong Jewelries.

Many graduates are unemployed, and many shop owners and business people are finding it hard to make ends meet.

WHY?

This is an accumulation of a few events that lead to all these undesirable social ills, it started with an increase in petrol prices, then electricity (Tenaga), then inflation sets in, interest rate increases, banks tighten their lendings, increase in unemployment ..... and water rate will increase. All these are inter-related and it is all culminated in people who find that their money is getting smaller and smaller. And smaller....

The above "deaths" tell us very clearly that - THEY all died because of MONEY.
LACK of money.

Money drives them to their death, in the first case; it's by choice ( but the children have NO CHOICE, probably they do not even know), and in the second case, are VICTIMS of others (who want money).

Yes, you may say that money is the cause of all evils, BUT with no money, that evil is a very dangerous MONSTER !!!!

WE will see MANY OF SUCH INCIDENTS in the next 3, 6 and 9 months definitely. There will be more deaths, more bankrupts, more Ah Long problems, more people appearing in newspaper asking for donations (either for medical needs or otherwise), more unemployed youths getting into social problems, more family "fights" because of money, more divorces because of money, more people cheat/con others and more people being cheated or conned.

This is an expected flow of events and it has, and always will take a certain pattern. If we notice carefully, the "devil" is manifesting itself slowly BUT very dangerously. The devil - the seed of all evils is nothing but the silence cries of desperate souls seeking salvations - in the wrong ways (killing themselves or killing others).

As normal people, we can only watch and side-step and NOT get into the path of the devil.
Be very careful, be extra cautious and be very sharp to ensure our own safety.
That is all we can do.

SO take care all my dear family members and all my dear friends.

Warning - Robbers on Camry

Here's what I got in my mailbox. Thought I'd share it with you :

Watch out for these car WMW 6638 Toyota Camry silver colour latest model with two to three Malay guys inside (young looking around age of 20~30 yrs old). They had robbed quite a number in Subang Jaya & USJ and they knew they were in hot pursuit by Police and local residents. Now they had changed their location and is now in Bandar Utama area. Please be aware and be more carefull and pls spread these words around. Also warned your hubby about this. There are so daring to commit crime during the day and using the same car and number. Below was the latest detail I copy out from Usj forum ( www.usj.com.my).

Just wanna share my experience , am the latest victim of the infamous silver camry !!!!!! Recently I have been reading alot on this forum , following the news on the silver camry . How would I expect that I would be their next victim !! It was a Tuesday afternoon , I went home for lunch , stayed till around 4pm . When I was leaving my house to the car , I saw a car parked right infront of my neighbours house , 2 malay guys waiting inside with the windows drawn.

As I was on my way out , I briefly confronted them asking whether who they were waiting for , they just pointed into my neighbours house n smile . Without suspecting anything , I made my way to my car which is parked across the road . While in my car i realised that I left my handphone upstairs at home so I locked my car and went back home to retrieve it , did not realise that they are still there . They super quietly tailed me into my house and force entry when I unlocked my door !!!! They took me upstairs and tie me up with just a pair of plastic cable tie , they bound my thumb together and imposibble to move as it hurts alot ! They took my TV , my moms laptop computer , 2 of my dads guitar , cassh , jewelry etc , they are so brave that when a passing car stopped to check , they still hav the guts to go out and tell the passing car nothing is happening , even pull me out and ask me to smile to them .

By then my neighbours are aware something is wrong so the 2 robbers forced me into their car and drove me to an ATM in Kota Damansara to withdraw money and later another ATM in Terminal 3 subang . They later dropped me off on the main road leading to the NKVE highway with RM20 to take cab . Very PRO ROBBERS I TELL U !!
Really hope to get them man !!